INTEGRATION CATALOG, a chapter of Emotional Mastery Book

March 20, 2019 Irina Busurina

INTEGRATION CATALOG

a chapter of ‘EMOTIONAL MASTERY’ book by Irina Busurina

Self-inquiry Coaching questions.

The integration process can be applied after the private events ( various conflicts, break-ups, miss communication) & professional events ( retreats, conferences, festivals, workshops, challenges ) are called in this exercise in neutral form as ‘experience’.

The best effect is reached as soon as possible after the event, nevertheless, 3 -14 days after the event this exercise is still good for your personal development and inner insights to give you the future guidance, best learning, and integration effect.

Name

First Name

Last Name

Experience Name & it's Date

1. What motivated you to make this experience?

2. What as your intention for the time of this experience?

3. What was a general feeling during this experience?

4. If you could summarize whole experience to 2 words, what would that be? Explain why?

5. Which parts of this experience did you like the best? Why?

6. Which one the worst? Why was it challenging for you?

7. What would you recommend to yourself next time to do to make this experience much better?

8. During which experiences have you felt mostly affected?

9. How did it affected you?

10. What does this feeling reminds you of?

11. Which experiences or interactions with others you felt most triggered/moved/impressed? List 3 most remarkable.

12. Which advice could you give to yourself about those 3 above ?

13. What has this experience has shown you what you didn’t know about yourself?

14. Which insights your higher self has communicated with you which you knew already?

15. How can you trust yourself / your intuition much better next time?

16. What do you need to do or be?

17. Based on insights you got about yourself through this experience, what would you change in your private life? In your professional life? In your relationships?

18. In which areas you have discovered through this experience you might need more emotional support, self- reflection or more introspection?

19. To who would you need to reach out? By when?

20. What is the best way to integrate those experiences into your daily life? List 2 simple actions you could implement in your routine.

21. About which behaviors / actions of yours are you the most proud of during this experience?

22. What did you think would scare you but you completed it?

23. Based on those experiences which promise could you give to yourself?

24. What would you be doing differently based on your insights?

25. What are the top 3 best memories of those experiences you would love to share with your friends or family?

26. In what area and which complimentary group workshops or private consultations do you feel would serve the process or the learning you have started during this experience?

27. What are your next 3 actionable steps to contain the effect / momentum of this experience?

28. Would you like to shedule a free call with Irina to integrate your experience even better?

29. In which City, Country, Time Zone are you right now and for how long?

Now you have answered all the questions and have an overview about your experience.

I recommend to leave it over the night and review next morning after you woke up, more information might come then.

If you are spiritual seeker need a loving support to integrate and ground your experiences into your daily life, your relationships and your professional work, message me to book for a coaching call.

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LOVE - SHINE - FLOW

<3 Irina

LOVE, DEEP CONNECTIONS and values of United Nations (a conversation with my parents)

May 25, 2018 Irina Busurina

-' Daddy, daddy! Tomorrow is an important day for me! I'm gonna unite and connect strangers from all different countries, ages, genders and professions into one ocean of breath and infinite bliss. I'm so excited! We gonna do this and that and as well....'

- ' Yes, sweetheart, all sound great, BUT WITH WHAT GOAL ARE YOU DOING IT? '

- 'What do you mean? It's for them to find to find connection to themselves though mirrors of others.. I called it 'DEEP CONNECTIONS'

- 'No, Irisha, there should be higher goals!'

- 'Hum... like what?'

- 'For reaching common goals and connection on common values'

A coach inside of me finally takes over:

- 'Ah, alright! I hear what you're saying. Let's narrow down the Top 3 common values and goals what that been most important in your over 40 Years UN career please ?'

Dad looks up, then down:

- ' Well, let me think....

Fist of all is of course MUTUAL RESPECT.

Second is COMPASSION to elderly people and kids.'

- 'Only elderly? What about others? You mean LOVE? Everyone needs love, or not?'

- 'Well.. .yes. OK call it love. Third is... wait, there are four!'

- 'Alright give me four!'

- 'Third is ENVIRONMENT. Not just nature and food. Everyone and everything!'

My mom is trying to leave us alone and sneak out of door.

- 'And the last one? Mom, just please don't go! Stay with us, it's important talk! If you go we will chat forever, i got to teach a Yoga class in few hours. please…' My Drama Queen smiles from the corner.

- 'Darling, stop whining and listen. The last one is what you do all last few years: is GROWTH. Development, progress. Career, personal growth and experiences on a bigger scale.'

- 'Yes, i get it. Just yesterday one wise English tantric woman taught me ' EXPANSION'. Expansive language, how to apply it and shift energy from the head into the heart during a little small talk. Always keep learning. '

- 'You see darling you grow as well. Look at your mom, she does her personal growth every day too. She exercises every day, does her breath work and changes her diet. I'm very proud of her! '

My mom is obviously bored by our philosophical conversation and starts as protest by playfully biting my dad's shoulder to get some loving attention.

- 'Yes, Daddy you right! She obviously grows inter-personally from expansive compassionate mother to the little biting monster! '

All family is laughing.

Mom: ‘Hey, you two smart ones and how should they all do it then in your workshop?’

- ' No brainer! Starting with themselves. “If you want to change the world, start with yourself” Ghandi said.'

- 'Yes Daddy! You got it! That’s what I’m talking about it!

Though mirrors of others we are finding connections to ourselves to find infinite resources inside of us to change the inner world first. Then through embodying the change we start changing the environment around us with respect, compassion and mutual understanding. We call it personal growth. But on energetic level it’s just an expansion of love. And you know why? Yes, because we are all connected on a very deep level. We are one.

Mom is biting your shoulder for you to understand how much you love her to accept her at times unpleasant for you act of affection. Because her LOVE was strengthening you in your COMPASSION which supported you in changing this world on you mission in United Nations.

Ah I love you two! '

Here is more about 'DEEP CONNECTIONS' Workshop that will be touring around Europe in Summer.

Please contact me if you want to bring this workshop into your city! irinabusurina@gmail.com

'DRAMA QUEEN' a story about Self-Study, Svadhyaya

May 5, 2018 Irina Busurina

“The mind is yang in nature. Constantly looking for movement, drama, comparison, information and generating form after form. Never still, never content, never at peace. And that is fine, for that is it’s design and it does a very good job of it. But if you give it too much importance, it will drive you mad and forever restless.”

Michael Hetherington

That's mind's job to be active, working non-stop and involve in 'sufferings'. It's part of our human being.

Drama queen. Ladies, watch out! My personal sharing.

It took me years to take distance and at times even separate myself from my inner 'Drama Queen'. That character was very popular in the female line of our family at times! Spending time together in intense family weekends in the country houses and going back to my shell been full of presents of learning about the female 'Drama Queen' - Dynamics.

Sometimes she still shows off as a primal reaction. I'm happy to see her again. She got a great message for me. Then first question I ask my beautiful inner 'Drama Queen':

"Darling, tell me: What are you afraid of?"

Of course she starts complaining, whining, telling me stories from the past and possible negative scenarios that 'might happen'.

Second question I ask her gently in my mind:

" I know you're trying to help and protect me from my negative past experience. What can i do for you to avoid that? "

And you know what?

Sometimes my inner 'Drama Queen' is reminding me about things that are important to me: my values, my deep desires. But more often those expressed emotions are just fears and unprocessed pains from the past wounds.

In my work I call it: conscious contemplation. I did on myself Years ago before i've heard about Trans-personal Psychology, which is working with Parts ( Sub-Personalities ) of our Subconscious.

In Yoga philosophy this known as Self-Study (Svadhyaya), one limb before Surrendering to the Divine ( Ishvara Pranidhana) and remarkably before Asana ( Physical Yoga practice ) .

" Svadhyaya means, literally, “to recollect (to remember, to contemplate, to meditate on) the Self.” It is the effort to know the Self that shines as the innermost core of your being.... learn to recognize when you are acting in harmony with your goals and when you are unconsciously acting counter to them. " *

Worth mentioning about one of the well-known Spiritual Bypassing what i learned from my wonderful spiritual teachers in 'Yoga & Psychotherapy course':

" I don't want drama in my life! " Many of my friends been expressing their frustrations with their partners.

What do you want instead? Peace and harmony? Yes?

Alright, please let’s have a look first inwards.

How your mind IS creating this drama in your perception of actions of other people? What are those actions triggering inside of you? Why is reaction so important to you?

You can dive in distractions and procrastination or escape in over-working and even hide in skillfully guided Meditations away from your emotional messages or running away** if it get emotionally intense.

Avoiding the internal emotional conflicts does not resolve it, it makes the emotional baggage piling up and it’s becoming even a bigger burden.

The last step i do in my 'Inner Work' with my ' Drama Queen'.

Inside of myself I decide:

- What is 'my baggage' i'm fighting with?

- How can i solve it?

- What do i need to give to myself in order to solve it?

- What is my family 'heritage'?

- What is my truth?

- What is a good point from all what I've heard?

- What makes sense to me in order to be in the emotional space i want to be?

The Art of Mind - Mastery for me is: to take your eager Mind-dude under control and make him to work with you: to protect and enable and for you: to pursue and accomplish towards your Soul Purpose.

Learning observing those emotions, dealing with primal reactions and finding your own truth that will serve your values, goals and purpose.

If you're interested to solve your baggages, receive messages from your inner 'Drama Queen' or need a support to find your truth I got just 2 places left for my bi-weekly online - coaching program

'MIND MASTERY'

P.S. Dear spiritual seeker, yoga teacher, mental coach or consultant!

Those insights are immensely valuable if you cleanse your way to your 'Vertical path' of Higher state of Consciousness or Samadhi.

What can you do?

1. Create peace with your ‘baggage’ by daily journaling

2. Do your inner 'Deep Work', find a coach or a friend who will support you in this

3. Know well your EGO and when and how its triggered

4. your Sub-Personalities, listen. Because if you work one-on-one with people and you're not rooted in Meditation & Self-Awareness then your mind will be constantly triggered for emotional reactions which a rooted deeply in your subconscious and your clients / students will feel it.

LINKS:

How to deal with stress and emotions? Watch the FREE video Day 3 of the 'Peaceful mind & Happy body' Challenge:

* Yoga Philosophy Source

**I’ve recorded a Youtube video on ‘Drama escapers’

Thank you Michael, Elica and Maha for inspirations!

Peace & Harmony to all!

'LARA & THE ROTTEN APPLE' a short story about emotions

May 1, 2018 Irina Busurina

So often we say to others: ' I'm alright', but inside there is a roller-coaster going on.

Have you ever at times gotten into the more exquisite art of self-deceit. You convinced and numbed yourself not to feel what you have not desired?

Just today for dinner, I met an old friend. I 'smelled him out' of being tired, exhausted, energetically empty. But he put on his mask:

"I'm alright".

After few minutes I asked him what would happen if he would share what's in his heart. His primary reaction was:

"No, i don't want to talk about it".

I was silent.

Then he poured his heart out. How often do we hold things back until its starts boiling up?

The longer we 'swallow' things they deeper they get buried and the more toxins they produce. I remember my little niece been upset about something one member of our family said to her. The whole evening she was hiding on my lap and didn't wanted to talk.

I kept her in her space for a bit and then took her out for a walk away from the whole family gathering. We had a chat.

I said: "Someone said something and you decided to be upset. Imagine your insult is like a rotten apple you put inside of you. It's your personal choice: to keep it rotten inside if you like Cider or take it out and let it go".

Lara made a gesture like she was spitting out something with big emotion, jumped on the place for a bit and stopped.

"Are you better now?"

"Yes, rotten apple is out." and she laughed.

With emotions its the easiest receipt: immediately get them out of your system in any harmless non-personal form in a space where you are alone, and feel free and return to your center.

In the Facebook Group 'JUICE OF LIFE' i posted videos on 'EMOTIONAL RE-START'.

Join the group and let me know how i can help you to deal with your emotional challenges.

Much love,

Irina B